Disclaimer: This is our first move together. We started our marriage in our current place in Dallas and haven’t had the experience moving together, much less to a different country. Let me start by saying this-the logistics of moving are no joke, and throw in a different country and the list of logistics to consider grows even longer.
Step one of moving abroad was to talk to my work and man I am so thankful to have a job that allows for the flexibility of working remotely. No one from our office currently works from anywhere outside the United States, so I knew it would still come with some hurdles in planning, but it is going to be totally worth it, I have not doubt.
I’ve had numerous discussions with my mentors, the head partner of the tax department, our IT team, and HR department. Their willingness to help us is unmatched. From international tax issues (which I won’t bore you with), to health insurance, to legal concerns, to potential firm liability issues, we have worked through potential conflicts I could not have dreamed of.
Talking to our families was what I was most nervous about. My family does not travel much at all, and since I am Dad’s favorite 🙂 I knew he would be so worried about us. My hands were shaking so much when I called my entire family on a conference call. I was sweating, but smiling. I blurted it all out in one line: “Greg and I have something to tell you and we are so excited and really happy and we are moving to Mexico and we are happy and excited.” Public speaking probably is not in my future. I was not even sure anyone on the other end understood my seemingly drunken English because the pause seemed to last forever. Then? Everyone started telling us how excited they were. They asked a few questions, but mostly asked about the fun things. I knew there would be tons of questions, but that phone call was about excitement and nothing but love and support for us and our adventures. Gosh, I love my family.
Our friends have had mixed responses. From “you guys are so lucky” to “oh my gosh I hate Mexico. Why would you move there?” to “that is so awesome, when can I come?”, the responses have been quite diverse. I truly believe that since the idea of living abroad is still such a radical idea, people have a wide variety of opinions.
One thing we have learned from starting this experience is that although we put ourselves in a position to make moving abroad a possibility (no kids, dogs, or mortgage), we still had to make this opportunity happen. It was certainly not handed out or given to us-we had to take the leap ourselves, not knowing much about what could possibly happen. Our takeaway is this-if you are pursuing a passion or goal, you are going to have to have some difficult conversations at some point. It will never be the perfect time and nobody is going to serve up your dreams on a silver platter for you!
Through all the varied responses, love, and support, one thing is certain: we are thankful for this opportunity and plan to make the absolute most of it!
Keep it kinetic,